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The traditional gift giving holidays are upon us. But with birthdays and other
events happening throughout the year, one question often comes up: “Who gives
to whom, and how much?”
As a library
manager, I expect that I or the organization will be the gift giver. I don’t
expect to get gifts from my staff. And business etiquette says you shouldn’t
give them to me. Alison Green of the Ask a Manager blog has written on this topic many,
manytimes.
My first manager
position was at a public library branch with about 25 (mostly part-time)
employees. We didn’t have a birthday party rotation in place, so birthday gifts
were at the discretion of friends and colleagues. We did try to celebrate the
larger milestone birthdays as a branch. As a manager, I gave them each of my
staff a high-end candy bar and a personal card on their birthdays. It was easy
to catch everyone, as we were all working in one small building and there were
staff lockers to drop off gifts early in the morning. It felt like it was a
little thing that would make a big impact, and I believe it did.
The end-of-the-year
holidays were much harder to deal with for me. I live a very secular life, and
I don’t really celebrate anything unless family or friends invite me along. My
first year, I bought everyone cute holiday socks and wrapped them in a small
bag with candy and a card. I also bought the holiday ham for the staff party
(and as a long-time vegetarian had no idea what I was doing at the HoneyBaked
Ham store!). The next year I bought $5 gas station gift cards and candy, it
seemed fitting as we had a QuikTrip location down the road and made regular
drink runs. I had two full time supervisors who reported to me, and I bought
each of them something more personal and expensive.
My staff bought me
presents for the holidays and for my birthday. There was a group present, and
also something special from a few people if they felt like it. I have to say
that I never felt comfortable getting gifts from my staff due to the
differences in position and pay scales, but I was also touched when they did
it.
I currently work at
an independent research library, and the atmosphere is much more conservative.
I have four departments who report to me, with four direct reports and over 20
indirect reports spread throughout a very large building. Three of my
departments get together for a monthly potluck birthday party, so I don’t do
anything additional. December 1 was my start date, and I when I asked around
that first year I was told that nothing was expected from me for the holidays
as a supervisor. The library hosts a catered staff luncheon, and I’ve used that
as an excuse not to do anything on my own. I don’t feel as connected to my
indirect reports in this position, as I don’t see them on a regular basis.
Living life “upstairs” and apart in administrative offices makes for a much
different work culture.
I occasionally feel
guilty for giving up the “warm fuzzies” I had in my previous job and stopping
my gift- and card-giving habits as a manager. And at the same time I would feel
strange just starting them up out of nowhere even though I know I could do that
at any time.
If you’re wondering
what to do at your own library, you really have to get a feel for the culture
and follow your best instincts. Just remember that you don’t want to start
traditions that become too difficult to maintain, whether due to preparation
time or costs. I’ve heard stories of epic baking sessions and expensive
presents that can’t be repeated year-to-year. My best advice would be to keep
it simple, and keep it sincere.
Keri Cascio is the
Director of Innovative Technologies and Library Resource Management at the
Linda Hall Library of Science, Engineering & Technology in Kansas City, MO.
She previously worked at public libraries, a state-wide consortium, and an ILS
vendor that no longer exists. She current serves on the boards for ALCTS and
the Missouri Library Association. Keri was a member of the inaugural ALA
Emerging Leader cohort in 2007. She earned an MA in Information Science and
Learning Technologies, emphasis Library Science, from the University of
Missouri in 2003. You can find her on Twitter at @keribrary.
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